Now P.D. - that's just hurtful. You mentioned a phrase that's very sensitive for me.
I once met two female employees who I was supervising at a seafood restaurant for supper. One of them looked at the menu and asked "what's a Red Snapper?"
Next thing I knew I had a complaint filed against me and a come-to-jesus meeting with my boss. Apparently that county sexual harassment reg has NO sense of humor!